Walking down the street, you usually feast your eyes on the hot ladies going by and say to yourself: “I’d do her!” Has it ever come to your mind that men are not alone with this? Yes, my friend, women do the same!

During your everyday life, whether you are on the underground, walking in the local shopping centre or dancing in your favourite club, girls will notice and measure you the same way. They might not say, “I’d do him”, but they can be open to meeting you and going further.

Most guys live their everyday life and never notice when a woman is eyeing them. But what if you approached her? Just think how many of these opportunities to meet a wonderful girl have you lost in the past! Countless to say at least.

Here are a few examples. A girl coming in front of you who looks deep into your eyes and smiles is giving you a sign of interest. When you are on the bus and a certain girl maintains her proximity to you (even if you sit or stand somewhere else) is showing a sign of interest. Maybe you can notice with your peripheral sight that a girl is looking at you from time to time. Or the girl sitting next to you fixes her hair, puts on some make-up or does something to get your attention.

Most of these women are waiting for you to make your move! Even though it’s sometimes unconscious for them as well, if you got the signs right she will be SURE to respond to you positively.

If you’ve got the courage to meet some wonderful girls this way, I will share my secret. This is a secret some authors are selling for hell a lot of $$$s, and if I give it to you, you will have to make a promise. You MUST promise to try it AT LEAST ONCE, otherwise close this window and go to Disney.com RIGHT NOW! Deal?

OK. So you chose to stay with me. Don’t forget your word! The following approach requires balls, but it also works like charm. In certain situations when you are pressed by time and you see a women giving you signs of interest (like those mentioned above), go up to her with a big smile on your face and say:

“Hi. You look like somebody I should get to know, but I’m in a hurry right now. Still, I don’t want to pass such a wonderful opportunity to meet someone like you. I’d like to see you again at a place where we could talk and get to know each other.”

It is very important to SMILE and come off casually and non-threatening. Like when you bump into a friend you haven’t seen for a long time. If you interpreted her body language well, and she really gave you an invitation to approach her, she will agree to meet again. So after she recovers from the initial (positive) shock, simply ask for her number, then smile and carry on with whatever you were doing.

One more thing: recognizing these signs is not easy if you have never done it before. So don’t be afraid to practice and don’t be scared if you get rejected at times. After all the girl you approach doesn’t even know YOU, she can only reject a stranger, not your real self. You see, it’s very important not to take anything personally.

Finally, if you are interested in improving your success with women and learning more tips and tricks of the trade, check out my e-book called “All About Women: The Encyclopaedia Of Seduction”. In my book, I cover each step of the seduction process, from A to the Z. From understanding the way women think, to learning to be a Man who attracts girls with his presence, the ins and outs of approaching women, secrets of making your dates successful, improving your sexual life and a lot, lot more… Whether you are ugly, bald, young, old or broke, the techniques I teach will work for you like charm!

Giuseppe Notte (All About Women: The Encyclopaedia Of Seduction)

That’s right, I said a quick TRICK question.

How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?

Answer quickly.

So what gives?

Why am I asking you a trick question?

Simple.

Because I’m trying to make you THINK.

I’m sure that, just like me, you’ve read a hundred dating tips and articles that say things like:

“If she tilts her head to one side and strokes
her neck, that’s a sign of interest…”

“If she licks her lips in a longing fashion,
that means she’s interested in you…”

“If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact,
and touches you often, then she likes you…”

DUH!

I remember when I first read all this stuff.

I thought to myself “Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn’t know to look for them. Now I’ll know when a woman is interested in me…”.

Well, there was ONE SMALL problem…

The problem is that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men…

And there was one BIG problem…

That problem was that none of the damn dating tips I read said a single thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals.

In other words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don’t get “approached” by women need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST PLACE.

So let me share with you some dating tips on how to MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you… and then I’ll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is interested.

And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting books.

OK, so you’re out at a bar with a few friends, and it’s time to meet some interesting women.

You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to one side, looking you in the eye, and licking their lips… so you decide to DO SOMETHING.

What do most guys do in this situation?

Either:

1) Nothing, because they’re scared, or…

2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or if he can buy her a drink.

If you’re guilty of doing these, raise your hand.

Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.

Here’s a thought for you…

If you put 100 guys in a bar with one beautiful women sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys “Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to that woman and do something to make that woman feel a SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?”… I’d say that
if you’re LUCKY, one of them will claim that he can do it.

In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don’t know and doing something that will TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of their universe.

This is one of the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to dance, buying them drinks, etc.

Now, something you must understand when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don’t feel ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.

ATTRACTION isn’t a CHOICE.

It isn’t logical (at least, on the surface).

But once you start to “get it”, everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once you “get it”, and your results change instantly as well.

So here’s a dating tip for you to try:

MESS WITH WOMEN.

That’s right “mess with” them.

Tease.

Bust on.

Be difficult.

Why?

Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:

1) You could care less what she thinks of you.

2) You’re a fun person.

3) You’re unpredictable.

4) You’re a bit of a “wild card”

5) You GET IT.

Now, you might be shaking your head right now and saying “That’s doesn’t make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her instead of being nice?”.

That’s a good question.

But for now, take the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again.

Good.

I want you to STOP following your “be nice and kiss ass” instincts when you first meet a woman, and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.

Make fun of something.

Go to hand her something, then pull it away at the last second.

Shake your head in despair and tell her that she’s screwing up her chances with you.

Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your face.

Can ya feel me, dog?

Now the good stuff…

HOW TO TELL IF SHE’S INTERESTED

Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is…

I’m going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.

Here it is:

1) You engage her.

2) She engages you back.

Yes, that’s it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap later.

I know that this sounds a little “Duh-ish”, but stay with me here.

If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with “Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if YOU join us…” and she laughs at my joke, then IT’S ON!

If I’m standing at the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say “Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room…” in a serious tone of voice… and she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully, then IT’S ON!

If I’m talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her “What’s with that huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or something?” and she starts laughing and making excuses, then IT’S ON!

In a nutshell, what I’m trying to say is:

1) Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.

2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.

3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!

As long as you use how she’s responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you’ll have a MUCH easier time spotting the “she wants me” clues…

…Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.

Now…

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This tool took me countless hours to develop…

Stop beating your head against the wall, and start taking advantage of the years I’ve spent learning this stuff. You’ll be SO glad you did.

And I’ll talk to you again soon.

David DeAngelo (Double Your Dating)

To me, this question was on the same level as “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?” and “If a tree falls in the forest with no one around, does it make a sound?” It was basically a question one could never truly know the answer to. Though, every time I would go out in public and see guy after guy with their girlfriends and wives, I would be reminded of this question.

How do people meet each other?

Or more specifically, how do guys meet women? What does everyone else know that I don’t? Why am I alone and they are with somebody? What is the secret?

Once I decided to take control of my life and make a concerted effort to meet women, I discovered the secret. And it’s a secret that’s so simple, so obvious, that I wonder why I didn’t know it before. Some of you out there reading this probably already know the secret, some might be like I was and not be aware of it. But when you hear it, this secret will make perfect sense. So are you ready to hear it? The secret to meeting other people is…

You talk to them.

Was I right? Is it obvious? I know it may seem rather simplistic, but this is probably the single most important notion there is when it comes to getting a girlfriend/wife/booty call, or what have you. If you do not talk to someone, you will never MEET them.

And you can’t have a relationship with someone you never meet.

The simple act of talking to a woman can lead to so many different things:

–You get a glimpse into her personality
–You find out what you two have in common
–You get to see if there’s any chemistry between the two of you
–You give yourself an opening to get her contact information
–You establish a level of trust and comfort that will allow you to ask her out later on

All this from the simple act of moving your mouth and having words come out!

It is because of this concept that I wrote my book, The Art Of Approaching, because there is so much to know about meeting women. You can talk to them, but what if they don’t respond favorably? What if you run out of stuff to talk about? What if you can’t even think of something to talk about at all?

This is where the concept of the “opener” comes in.

I’ve talk about openers in other newsletters before, and I go into extreme detail about them in my book. But having a good opener is too important a concept just to let it go mentioned once or twice.

Without a good opener to use when meeting a woman, you’re really rolling the dice and taking a chance that what you say to her initially will:

1. Get her to talk to you
2. Engage her in conversation

Maybe what you say will get her to respond with a “Yes or no” answer. If that’s the case, where do you go from there?

Maybe what you have to say will get her to explain something to you, but will it really engage her in conversation? Will she continue to talk to you so you can establish that “trust and comfort” foundation you’ll need to get her information?

These are the factors you have to take into account when you go about meeting a woman. Here are some examples of openers you want to avoid:

“Do you know where X is?”
“Do I know you from somewhere?”
“That’s a nice X you’re wearing.”
“Do you come here often?”

The list goes on. But if you look at all those statements above, they don’t really lead anywhere. They’re not engaging, they’re not interesting, and they will not help you get to know the woman you’re talking to any better.

Here’s a good opener for you to “test out” this weekend or whenever you’re going out next. When you see a girl you like and want to meet, walk up to her and ask:

“Hey, I got a quick question. Do you read your horoscope?”

See how this opener differs from the ones above? You’re not asking her an ordinary question she hears a million times a day, and there’s an intriguing element to it. Most women are interested in horoscopes and other new-agey stuff, so even if they DON’T read their horoscope, they may be interested in why you’re asking the question.

If she says YES, it is easy to ask her what her sign is and what her horoscope is telling her. This is great because she will be giving you information about herself that you can use to your advantage in the conversation.

If she says NO, ask her if she’s ever checked her horoscope before and then ask her what her sign is.

No matter what she says, always follow up with “Hmmm. That’s interesting…”

When she asks “Why?” say “Well, I don’t want you to take this the wrong way, but you know what they say about Pisces (or Aries, or Scorpio, or whatever her sign is)?”

By now she’ll be really interested. Follow up by saying “Pisces (Aries, etc.) women are the most sexual women out there.”

Watch her reaction, and then follow up with a story to get the conversation flowing. Here’s one I use:

“I know this because my ex girlfriend was a Pisces (Aries, whatever), and she was the most sexual woman you’ll ever meet. We used to have so much fun together, doing all sorts of wild things, she was totally open to doing anything. I used to think it was just her, but every Pisces woman I’ve dated has always been really fun and sexual. What’s the wildest thing you’ve ever done?”

See how that works? You set it up so that you present her with a role you want her to adopt (being sexual and fun and open to anything), and show it in a positive light. And even if she doesn’t agree with your assessment of her sign, you’re getting her to share with you what wild stuff she HAS done.

Before you know it, you’re in a conversation!

Typically, you’ll want to have three good openers to use one after another, all with follow-up stories to get the conversation flowing.

Thundercat / Joseph Matthews (Art of Approaching)

This happened because I had dropped two important pieces out of my game. If you know what they are already, then you are obviously already successful in the field.

The next day, I did the exact same thing, except I added Negs and Time Constraints to the approach. Everything flew open. I was pulling girls off of guys left and right.

So, if you are approaching, but not having success getting in with the set, go out tonight and add negs and time constraints to the first three minutes of your approach. It makes a huge difference.

For those who don’t have this material, here’s an example:

TIME CONSTRAINT: I can only stay for a minute, because I have to rejoin my friends over there.

NEG: Oh my God, is she always like that? How do you roll with her?

And, a third point, which I’ve made often. In order for an approach to work in a bar or club, you must enter the set with an energy/fun level equal to or slightly greater than its current energy level. If you walk in not smiling, talking softly, and with bad body language, you’re going to get blown out, no matter what you say right.

Hope this helps some people…

Style / Neil Strauss (Author of The Game)

1. “Of all the people at the table, you picked the wrong guy. I’m completely gay”. Follow up with “why don’t you take my seat and talk to my friend, I’m keeping you from making money”

2. “Even if I was straight, I wouldn’t buy a dance from you”.
Her: “Why?”
Style: “Because my boyfriend is a dancer, and I know that as soon as he dances for someone, or starts telling them the same stories he’s told a hundred people that night, he doesn’t see them as human beings. And you actually seem like an interesting person, someone who I could actually be friends with and do a lot of amazingly fun things with, and I wouldn’t want you to ruin that opportunity” Then tell her she should go and make some money. Transition into the natural woman routine.

RULE 1:

Say that you are a stripper too, or that you were one if you don’t have the body “anymore”.

RULE 2:

The minute they dance for you you are a customer. DON’T let her dance unless its for free.

RULE 3:

Don’t buy her a drink or anything else for that matter.

RULE 4:

Have a performer image. Let her look at some piccies on your camera. Convey you are cool.

RULE 5:

Treat all strippers as 10s and NEG hard.

RULE 6:

Be slick on the close. Make them ask you for number. Better yet tell her you don’t want to pick her up in the club. Tell her to meet you outside “but don’t expect much from me tonight”

RULE 7:

Most strippers believe in ESP, Ghosts, Supernatural so use for conversation

RULE 8:

Be BIG, be centre of attention. Quiet seduction will not work on them. No sexual shit in the club. Intrigue her to join you and then she already decided she likes you.

RULE 9:

Make her think that you think she wants you. Be a challenge.

RULE 10:

Connect using “I live my life 1 day at a time”attitudes

RULE 11:

Connect using “so many people are so judgemental about things, you seem open and fun”

Style / Neil Strauss (Author of The Game)

I’ve found that with an HB, if you can get her to NOT like you and then REFRAME and get her to really like you within a couple minutes, you are so IN it’s ridiculous.

I recently had an epiphany, and I’ll share it here: I realized that I have been doing something REALLY wrong for a while. Normally, in a strip club or at a party with a SHB, I’d just ignore her. Then, after some time, I’d eventually work my way around to doing my material.

But, what works with these girls, is conveying ACTIVE DISINTEREST. And this doesn’t mean just throwing a neg in there. It means totally being obnoxious and rude to them. The challenge is that, as soon as you meet one of these girls, you MUST talk right away. But for most of these girls, simply talking to them is an IOI in itself. So you must give them an active IOD. I’ve realized that the steps are this to get in — and this is all pre-opener.

I. You must come in strong, with great body language, and be so non-needy. You must totally shoot her down before she even opens her mouth. This means not ignoring her, but talking instantly and talking down to her.
II. Then a shit test will follow. You must pass this. And to do it you must not backtrack on your earlier statement. You may reframe it, but you can not under any circumstances take it back or apologize for it.
III. Once you pass the shit test, you are pretty much in. Here you can reframe your relationship (”we are so different” — pacing — “we’re like two characters in a romantic comedy, like Audrey Hepburn and Cary Grant” — reframing.
IV. Now you can go into your opener.

I’ve just noticed with socially proofed hottie actress/models wannabes, their self-esteem is simultaneously SUPER-LOW and SUPER-HIGH at the same time. And this is a huge epiphany, because you must feed into her low self esteem without triggering her high self-esteem. If you let her know she has you, you’ve lost.

This has been on my mind lately because I had two interesting experiences the other day.

I. I was introduced to a hottie. I started to demonstrate value, and she just was not listening. It wasn’t going in her ears. I walked away and started talking to her friends. Again, without being rude at all, they just were NOT listening — even though moments before we had all exchanged names and been introduced. (In retrospect, I should have just CALLED THEM on their shitty manners.)

II. I was introduced to another hottie a 9.5. Within minutes, I called her retarded. She got pissed. I did my teasing is affection routine. She was still pissed. I told her “I refuse to apologize, it’s the way I am. Everyone is my bratty little sister until they prove otherwise.” She was still arguing with me. So I said, “I’ll tell you what. Let’s start all over….Hi, I’m Style.” Then we fluffed (and I did the Cary Grant line). But the interesting thing is that she would have had ZERO interest in fluffing with me if I hadn’t totally insulted her and passed her shit test first. Later, she was all over me, and hinted that I should get her number. I completely ignored her hint. Then later she just gave it to me.

So, anyway, I’d like to discuss other ways of conveying ACTIVE DISINTEREST. Especially casual openers and neg openers, like that old FR when I asked the HB10 and 11 if their hair was real, LOL. Would love to hear other ideas!

Style / Neil Strauss (Author of The Game)