When handling a girl men should always understand that women also have some common behavior like how we like beautiful face, nice tits and round ass. Woman passion and desire just like man and their thinking pattern is also similar to man.

The given below common behavior of a woman might help guys to understand them.

Most of the women are very emotional at times and they tend to forget what the brain advises them instead they listen to their emotions.

Women like surprises they don’t like the same routine boring relationship or the same boring sex. To get them excited the partners should give surprises quite often and he should be a creative person to provide a positive surprise. It is always advisable to check twice before trying a surprise sometime it might have a negative impact too. Compliment from a partner regarding her looks gives her a pleasant surprise.

Another important factor is that women always look at her partner’s tidiness and they observe even minute details like whether he has polished his shoes or not etc. Sometimes many married guys are puzzled why their wives are so keen on trivial or silly details; the reason is the above mentioned trait of the women makes her to think and acts like that.

They are generally critics looking for a negative point and always look for minor flaws or imperfections.

Just like men, women also love adventures although this may not be their main trait but this one will surely pop up sometimes. They love doing wild things quench their challenges.

In other view woman loves her partner to lead her like coordinating a party or arranging a trip including the itinerary. In other words she wants to be treated like a queen.

Generally, women like to test men before dating and sometimes the test might go beyond the limits too. However be always aware that they generally want men to advance in relationships like giving those compliments, rose or a kiss etc.

Then, push her off you and say “now get off me”.

At this point, do a slight freeze out or Indication of Disinterest (IOD) and wait for her to give you an Indication of Interest (IOI).

If you did everything correctly up to this point, she will give you an IOI by re-initiating kino with you.

After she does, lean in and kiss her.

You’ll know that she is ready to be kissed after she IOIs you, because you verbalized that you wanted to kiss her, and her IOIing you is a way of accepting that verbalization.

Style / Neil Strauss (Author of The Game)

Each phase has three smaller stages under the Mystery Method.

He then spoke about how you need to start off every interaction with a girl with attraction, and after attraction you must qualify her by asking her questions.

But as important as attraction is, Mystery pointed out that the game is played in the “Comfort” stage of the interaction, and that it usually takes 7 hours from meet to close (ie: sex). That’s an average. It can take anywhere between 4 to 10 hours, but usually 7 (6 hours of which are in Comfort).

He went on to break down his method like this:

Attraction + Comfort = Seduction

Each phase has three smaller stages.

Mystery Method

Attraction
1. Open
2. Female to Male Attract (Make the woman attracted to us first)
3. Male to Female Attract (Find out what qualities she possesses and then use those to tell her you’re attracted to her)

Comfort
4. Comfort 1 (Build Rapport)
5. Comfort 2 (Go for phone number, build intimacy, hand holding, kino, etc)
6. Comfort 3 (Heavy intimacy, kissing, making out)

Seduction
7. Arousal
8. Last Minute Resistance
9. Sex

The next step to Opening was to install a “plot line.” Basically, Mystery said that you want to convince others that you and the target
don’t get along. By not getting along with your target, you engage the others in the group. He also spoke about how you have to have your own style. He recommended being enthusiastic about what you talk about (enthusiasm is contagious). You have to possess a strong identity and convey that Identity quickly.

Mystery

This to me is the biggest breakthrough I’ve had in the last year. Once you cross this barrier, there’s no going back. It changes your whole PU life. No longer are you going out trying to just get a LR, but to bring two of the right women together for a dual induction massage.

This all began one night at the ProHo mansion, when an FB was over and an MLTR did a drop-by. I was in Herbal’s room, sitting there with them both vibing each other, trying to figure out what to do.

I went outside and talked to Mystery, and asked him which girl I should get rid of.

Fortunately, Mystery had just been at David D’s seminar. And a gentleman there by the name of Rick S. (not to be confused with Rick H.) had talked about getting threesomes by having two girls massage him at the same time. We looked into Herbal’s room, at the two of them talking, and Mystery suggested a couple tactics. I decided, what the fuck, I had nothing to lose.

I took them both up to my room to watch a fun home video clips that I was in. We all lay on the bed, and watched it.

So, here are the steps, once you have them on your bed. Of course, make sure the lights are low and the mood is romantic and comfortable, without being an obvious seduction/plan.

STEP ONE: Tell them, genuinely, “I just experienced the most amazing thing. I went to San Diego and hung out with my friend Steve, who’s like a guru and a shaman, and an amazing guy. And he had two of his students perform a dual induction massage on me. Their hands were moving in perfect synchronization on me, and because your conscious mind can’t follow all those movements, it just disconnects and you feel like there are thousands of hands on you. It was amazing.”

[This is true: It was an amazing gift from Steve P., one of the really great and powerful guys I've met through this community.]

Now, ideally, the HB getting the massage should be the one who would get the most jealous. She needs to get the attention first to feel comfortable. Also, to make sure this goes smoothly, it’s best if this is someone you’ve *closed or !closed before. It’s best to leave her shirt ON, and just do it over the shirt.

Next, tell the HB who’s doing the massaging that she must follow your hand movements exactly and move in exact synchronization. (I’d recommend taking a seminar in Swedish massage to learn how to do a nice backrub; if you’re in NY, try the Open Center; anywhere else, just do a Learning Annex course.)

STEP TWO: Next, say it’s your turn. Take off your shirt, and lie on your stomach. And definitely show appreciation for what they are doing.

STEP THREE: Afterward, say that it’s the third girl’s turn. Help her out of her shirt, or ask her to take off her shit while she’s facing away from you (if she’s shy), and have her lie on her stomach.

On this girl, you can make the massage more erotic. Go around the breasts and butt and thighs, WITHOUT actually touching any private parts.

STEP FOUR: Now this is the key move. After you finish the massage, let her lay there on her stomach underneath you and the other girl. Pause a moment to build up a touch of tension, then start making out passionately with the other girl (the one who was just doing the massaging with you) over the back of the girl lying down.

Now, just gently turn the face of the girl lying down towards you. Kiss her. Then gently take the head of the other girl and bring it DOWN to the face of the girl lying on her stomach. If you’ve created the mood properly, they’ll just automatically start kissing. Join in for a threeway makeout, and it’s all over.

YOU have to be a conductor, and orchestrate everything. Turn over the girl who was being massaged last, and each take a breast. Then switch off girls. Then roll away and watch them go at it. Then get back in there and help them remove some clothes. Etc. Etc.

However, this can NOT be about your pleasure. In the majority of cases, you are providing an excuse for the girls to get together. So if one of the girls is an MLTR or primary or main FB, make sure that it’s all about HER pleasure. You need to calibrate the comfort level of each girl the whole time. If you start trying to be a porn star too quickly or making it all about you (or making it too explicit where the massage is heading), this could backfire. That said, since I first figured it out (with respect to Rick S., Mystery, and Steve P), it hasn’t failed once. (Though there have been occasions where the energy wasn’t right to go into this dual induction massage.)

Style / Neil Strauss (Author of The Game)

First of all, before even attempting this, there MUST be rapport. I make sure to only do this when I have her in a place where I can LOGISTICALLY CLOSE… (i.e. you and her alone in a locked room (or private place) with little chance of interruption , whether that be at your place or hers or any other setup)…

This is also done as part of the “Impulse Close” to build up the chemistry and sexual tension where there is a phase shift into a sexual state.

The Sexual Value Elicitation format

There are 3 primary components.

1) The Sexual Value: X

The quality itself that a gal enjoys about sex and wants more of. (i.e. Romantic sex, Nasty sex, Bondage sex, taboo sex…)

You would elicit this by asking her a question such as:

“What about sex really turns you on?” or “What makes for really good sex?” or after doing the cube, talk about her horse: “You mentioned that your horse was a black stallion, which means that you’re turned on by dark erotic passion… ”

2) The Rule: Y

This is the way that she knows that she has that quality… What she/he DOES.i.e. Her PROCESS

“How do you know when you’re having really _______ sex or you’re feeling really _______? What kind’s of things do you do, or does the other person do?” “How do you know that you have this sense of _______ when you’re with this person that’s closest to you…”

3) Interaction between the Value and the Rule: Z

This is what she were to get from having her sexual quality fulfilled in just the way that she wants it, and what it would be like for her to experience it in just this way… (This gets her rapidly into state! I make sure to anchor to myself, and if possible to use a kinesthetic anchor into which you can incorporate a slide anchor to build intensity.

“So what is it like for you when you have X with this person and you do Y…” or “What do you get out of having X, where you can do Y with this person that you’re with…” or So if you had really X sex, and you/this person did Y, what would this be like for you?”

4) Final Step

Now the next step that I do is to repeat back the value, then her rule for the value, and then the interaction between the two as I focus on anchoring and intent.

(Value) = X

(Rule) = Y

(Interaction) = Z

“So when you’re with this person where you’re having the most X sex, where you’re/they’re doing Y, and you feel this sense of Z … This is what you really enjoy about it, isn’t it…”

Be sure to distinguish their answer as either the value itself or the rule

When you first ask the question, “What about sex really turns you on?” or “What makes for really good sex?” you are trying to elicit the QUALITY. They may give you the RULE.

You must distinguish between the two. Remember the rule is WHAT THEY DO… i.e. action oriented) If they give you the rule, focus back on eliciting the QUALITY. An Example

1) “What makes for really good sex?” someone may respond with “feeling skin on skin”… (This is really Y… what they DO… the RULE… i.e. HOW THEY KNOW)

Focus back on the quality. “So what does feeling skin on skin mean to you?”
Then they will respond with something like “Closeness”. NOW, Closeness (X) is the quality that you are after.

2) “Closeness” (X Quality) … “Skin on skin” (Y Rule) to the Interaction between the two (Z)

“What does it give you to have closeness with this person, where you can feel this skin on skin… ?”

3) “I’d feel complete” (Z Interaction between quality and rule… i.e. WHAT IT GIVES THEM)

4) You then repeat it all back to them as you anchor the state.

“So say that you’re with this person who is closest to you, where you feel this closeness, this feeling of skin on skin… where you feel this sense of completion… where this is something that you really enjoy and something that you want to do, isn’t it…”

IN10SE / Twotimer

The girls will either say:

“It’s totally natural. I hate it when pictures make me look bad, especially with a digital camera where you can just delete them and take more.” (They also sometimes say “But he’s only known her a few months. I wouldn’t do that on a guy I just met.”)

-or-

“She has a boyfriend!”

Your immediate reply would be “He doesn’t care about that. He’s busy. He just doesn’t want her deleting his pics! :)”

Tyler Durden (Real Social Dynamics)

Notice it’s not sexual? Most hot girls get “sex-talk” right away from AFCs. NOT talking sex with them makes them question whether you are interested in them. Leave them guessing until you get indicators of interest from them. If they like your great personality (confident, humorous, etc) they will give you subtle but distinct clues.

Mystery

One thing that I do (and I may have gotten the idea from either Swinggcat or Style ) is to link the girl I’m with to a character in my story. And that character is in a similar situation and of course the character does exactly what you what the girl to do. – also keep in mind that you can use this same tactic as a neg if the story is about a “dorky” girl that she “reminds” you of.

For example, here’s one that I use… If there is a girl that you are with that is kind of sexually inhibited you may say, (and I’ve field tested this extensively and had one success after another).

“You know, you kind of remind me of this girl that I know… Actually you look a lot like her… My friend Jen, and I remember she was telling me about how she was with this guy once, and she was totally turned on… they’re like over at her place on her couch, alone, late at night… the mood was perfect… candles were on, they had the wine out… and they’re here totally making out, and getting all into it… but you know what she told me was that she had been kind of shy when it came to sex… (I’m Pacing her here) but she totally wanted it. But you know, it kind of took her awhile, and it was just like a reflex to keep pushing her boyfriend away… (more pacing) I guess it was just like a pattern that she got into, and she really just kept doing it out if reflex, not even really thinking about it. So anyway, at the end of the night, her boyfriend had been pushed away so much that he just stops everything… no kissing, no touching, nothing… and he gets up and says kind of in a matter of fact tone, “I’m going home… goodnight” And he starts walking toward the door.

And then Jen tells me she didn’t know what got into her… (leading now) she just jumps up and starts ripping his clothes off, her clothes off, pulls him to her bedroom and she said that it was just an incredible night… they totally went at it… she said it was like everything that she had always really wanted to do, she did… totally uninhibited. She said it was just awesome… so now, what do you think?”

And ending this with a question, I get to calibrate her even more, and of course she’s “identified” with the character in my story (Jen). So she gets to “be” Jen for the duration of my story… and so that when that moment comes for US where WE’RE the ones making out on the couch, she’ll have already gone through both the resistance AND then GIVING UP the resistance in her mind through “Jen”.

I’ve also used stories about a “friend” to bring out bisexual qualities in chicks.

To inoculate against LMR this is great!

I’ve also use stories about a “friend” that a gal reminds me of, to do things like bring out bisexual qualities, bring out the “naughty side”, open up a gal to the “friends plus” frame, getting gals to role play (being a ho/stripper), getting gals to experiment and more…

IN10SE / Twotimer

Everyone seems to want to know *how* to set up their profile in the best way to get more success.

Well, I have some SHOCKING news for you.

But before I get to it, I wanted to tell you a quick little story of what happened to me today.

Its about 5 p.m. I go outside to the mailbox… open it up and I see this nice slick catalogue/brochure from apple.

I walk inside and put down all the mail and continue to look it over because it was just really sweet looking.

The photos were stylish, the design was clean and the brochure just got me in that buying mood.

So what did I do?

I put the magazine down and went to their website to read more but I didn’t buy anything.

Now why am I telling you this story?

Because your profile is just like that brochure. Its just there to look good and give her a point of reference. its NOT going to make her say: “YES, I want this guy right now.”

Believe it or not, the profile isn’t one of the most important things. Yes it is important but lets not overdo it.

Girls want to see that you’re not some dumbass, psycho, stalker etc.

The purpose of the profile is to show her that there’s a brain behind the face. To show her that you’re actually a cool, relaxed guy. That you’re FUNNY. You have a sense of style.

These are all attributes that your profile should have.

And if it doesn’t then take it down and fix it ASAP

I hear it now, someone is going to say:

“But, Dave, exactly what do I put in it?”

Here’s a SAMPLE of how I might structure this. Notice I said might. I don’t want to give you absolute specifics because then what happens?

EVERYONE and their mother takes the same stuff and then the girls catch on that we’re all using the same stuff and it ruins it for everyone.

On the Insider Internet Dating CD I actually show you my EXACT profile so you can learn from watching.

Soooo…..

1. Intro

I’d start with something catchy…mention something about why your profile is different, or what she must go through on these sites…

2. Some basic info

Age, eye colour, build, what you do…the basics

3. Now go a bit further

Give her some more cool info….fun things you like to do, hobbies, what you like to do for fun.

***And no, you can’t start talking about the vertical slide (Hint Hint)

4. Start to qualify her

Ask a question…like are you a cool fun girl that likes to be active on the weekends?

If she emails you back then she seems to think she fits in there. But again, the profile is just there to convey some basic stuff so you don’t need to stress out too much over it.

She’s not going to talk to your profile. She’s going to talk to you, IF you do the right things.

If you do, you’ll get her number, then you’ll charm the living heck out of her and do ALL the right things.

When you’re talking about what you like in a woman, I’d be a bit ambiguous and not really talk about PHYSICAL features but rather talk about personality traits that you’d like her to have.

“Someone that’s got more going for them than their looks”.
“A woman that’s got ambitions in life is very appealing to me…”
“A woman that thinks sexy usually is sexy”.

Stuff like that.

My style is all about charm. Its about being cocky and funny but in the right situations… and all the while adding charm so she can’t help but dig you.

Remember the profile is there as a reference. Its like a brochure the salesman gives you. Odds are you’ll look through it and if its got nice pictures and some interesting words then it helps.

Dave M
Insider Internet dating

The most important thing is to make sure you aren’t SUPPLICATING or BEGGING her for her number. Make it mutual or HER idea. Ideally, you will have gamed her well enough that she will OFFER her number.

When YOU end the interaction (because you have sensed that she is about to end it or because the logistics don’t work to escalate any further, NOT because you just want the #!), and she DOESN’T offer her number, you should try to LEAD her to suggest it.

Here is my all-time favourite number close routine for quick number closes. The idea is to act totally clueless and force HER to tell you how to number close her.

“Man, if only there were some way that we could stay in touch. I mean, this is the 21st century, you’d think someone would have figured out a way for us to talk even when we’re not together… God, this is so complicated…” and continue until she says, “Do you want my number?”

If she doesn’t offer, pull out YOUR cell-phone and say, “Hmmm… I wonder if this strange device could help us…” Continue with Cocky & Funny until she gives you the number.

Ideally, however, when you get the number you’ll have enough attraction AND rapport to make it mutual. There won’t be any need to “trick” her into giving you the number. Either way, once you get the number and she leaves, you’re going to have to phone game her the SAME WAY.

Harmless