Power is the biggest aphrodisiac of all time. This was true in the earliest days of the caveman period, true in Egypt, Greece and Rome, and it’s still true today.

Women in particular are hugely attracted to power. In different historical times, the display of power took different forms; if you go back to caveman days the most muscular hunter had the power, in Rome the senator with the most connections, and nowadays social status, the car you drive, and the amount of money you have signify your power. But the strange thing is that there are guys in today’s society who have money, and drive wonderful sports cars but don’t get laid. They are afraid of even approaching hot girls.

If you could see me approach a hot girl in a club you would see power. The girl I approach is going to know she is not dealing with an excuser. Especially in a night-time venue, the way you communicate when you start your seduction must be full of power; eye-contact, tonality, your posture, the way you move, your attitude. As soon as a girl detects she has more power then you have, that she is stronger than you, all your chances are destroyed. By nature man is supposed to be stronger, to be the one who has the power. When you approach a girl with the mindset that you are weak, and she is strong, you are immediately pushing the girl into an unnatural position for her, a position where she is supposed to have the power. And as she knows she is not supposed to have power, it feels unnatural for them so they blow you off.

Girls are fascinated and obsessed by power. It makes them feel safe, protected and therefore able to open up sexually. Recent studies have shown that orgasms take place in the brain for women, and in order to have an orgasm they must let go of fear and anxiety and trust their partner totally.

When a girl is around a powerful man, she surrenders her body and spirit to him. She is feeling safe, protected, and turned on by his power all at the same time. Just take a look how girls behave around celebrities and other guys who possess power. They don’t think, they just surrender their bodies and mind to them. Surrender is the key to female sexuality; power is the cornerstone of male sexuality. Yin and yang.

So how do you go from being weak, afraid of approaching hot girls, to being confident within yourself and radiating power? Think about approaches you may have done in the past; you will see that success or failure was often all about your power, your conviction when you did them. When you got blown out it’s often because the girl thought ‘another weak man – get lost’. How sure you were of yourself, and how sure you were that the girl would be open to you, all come into play here. Pull yourself out of the matrix – realise that you are the prize, the man is the prize. Approach and deal with girls from that mindset of being the prize, the rock-star, the king of the jungle.

Also, the more you stop thinking and obsessing over your troubles – how unworthy you are, how terrible your life, your concerns over the future… the more you compress your life into the immediate moment and seize all its opportunities… the more power you are going to feel.

Power is just concentrated energy and we lose energy all day worrying. I want you not to listen to your own thoughts, which haven’t got you the success you deserved, but the thoughts and mindsets I am describing to you here. When you turn a girl around with a sly smile on your face. When you tell her, without any excuses, that you find her beautiful and you will get to know her. When you talk to her emotions, and avoid boring talk. All of these things are going to demonstrate your power as a seducer, and a man.

Your power is going to come from feeling happy, and in control of your life.

Badboy (Badboy Lifestyle)

What there is though:
* Women trying to game you by being Cocky & Funny or playing hard to get. So, if they’re actively trying to game you, then how is THAT rejection?
* Women thinking about sex too much. If they’re horny, the harder they’ll try to game you… even if sex wasn’t your intention when meeting her. (Which explains why “bitches” simultaneously dress hot and go out and “reject” guys for no reason.)
* Performance anxiety in an attempt to seduce men.

For men, the only rejection possible is SELF-REJECTION.

So really, getting over the fear of “rejection” is understanding that:-
* Not approaching women with the intention of having sex with them UNTIL you have screened them. Get sex off the brain. Concentrate on rapport. This mindset in itself makes approaching effortless and fearless.
* Understanding that being bitched out is actually a GOOD thing, and is nothing bad at all. Her reaction to you is nothing you need to be concerned about, because (despite all appearances) it is actually something good going for you. There is no need to fight back or get angry once you know what’s really going on in her head.
* Take sex out of the equation. By using a neg, or just LJBFing (Let’s Just Be Friends) her right from the start, you drop her ASD (Anti-Slut Defence). Also, you take her sexuality away from her so she can’t use it as a weapon against you.
* Note that by taking sex out of the equation… while you drop her ASD and resistance… you raise her performance anxiety. No longer the old tricks she used to get men are working now! She is now in unchartered territory, which is scary, so be gentle. ;)

Neo Rio

Just think about it… when she chooses you, you have the power, she is in your territory… she enters into YOUR frame. YOU are the prize. The King of Spain is all powerful in Spain. He has no power in Japan. That’s why it’s so important to be chosen. If you appear to be the one choosing her, then you give away your power… Bad. Don’t waste your time on a woman who doesn’t choose you… it will only drain you.

So how do you get a woman to choose you?

1) First of all, it starts with your frame. You are the prize. This is Identity level stuff. Your GAME has to be tight. In all areas of your life… from career, home, lifestyle… You have to represent what women want. “Alpha” characteristics apply here.

In the book, The Evolution of Desire – Strategies of human mating David Buss talks about women’s preferences. He states that when seeking a permanent mate, women not only seek men with resources, but with qualities that lead to the accumulation of resources – like ambition, status, intelligence, age, health…

2) Realize that ALL women want something. Whether it be excitement, adventure, security, love, respect… whatever it is, you need to find out what it is that makes her happy and what makes her smile. Find out her “criteria” for being happy. A Value Elicitation could do this easily and give you her “criteria” (”How do you KNOW when you have X?” and “What is it LIKE when you have X?”).

A woman will choose a man that seems to be able to deliver. She has to know that you can deliver, and what is it that you are delivering REALLY? – FEELINGS.

Many women have an underlying feeling that they are held captive by their work, life, bills, REALITY… Why do you think that women go to “chick flick” movies, read romance novels, watch soap opera’s? It’s because they have NEEDS that aren’t being met and they are trying their best (unconsciously) to meet them. Work, home, bills, etc. – all things that TAKE… and you are the one thing that seems to be able to GIVE. How can she resist?

3) Most women are never satisfied – In all areas… from sexuality to self-esteem to career, to LIFE. There are many women that want to live in a “TV world” where nothing is mundane… where there is danger and spontaneity… adventure… the need to be rescued. Many women will CREATE this DRAMA because they want it so much.

Also, the state of being in “Love” can be likened to a hypnotic state. The question is “How good a hypnotist are you?” and to be always be aware of who is hypnotizing who. Many women want the FANTASY, to be “hypnotized” by love and swept away. Recognize a woman that wants this because they will often hypnotize THEMSELVES as they talk about it. You’ll see their eyes get all glassy and dream like. All you have to do is go with it. Just BE THERE!

Women in this state are just looking for someone to BOND with – a “Daddy” who can (seem to) DELIVER THE FEELINGS that they actually already have within themselves. Whenever they dream of the “Perfect man and relationship” or imagine themselves in the future with the man of their dreams, or think about their perfect wedding, they are hypnotizing themselves. They’ve probably been doing this all their LIVES! They just need someone to “BOND” with and someone to IMPRINT their feelings on. In many animal species, just as in this scenario – the female ACTIVELY chooses the MALE and all the male has to do is push all her “attraction buttons” because so much of this is based on “Auto-responses” and knowing which buttons to push. Some of these “attraction buttons” are Universal for all women – some are individual and based on a woman’s past personal history. Push the “attraction buttons” and JUST BE THERE!

The KEY is to know as much as you can about her – and how do you do this? ASK and OBSERVE her actions both in the present and from what you know of her PAST… What she SAYS = What she THINKS (Which may be BS and culturally programmed), What she DOES = What she FEELS. THIS is what is important. This is why if you don’t know this little fact, women can SEEM so confusing… saying one thing and doing another. Appearing to change their mind at a moments notice. I’d say that 99.99% of men don’t know this little fact and if they did… well then it would be a different world out there. This is what is being spoken underneath what is actually spoken.

And once they have “Bonded” with you and thus CHOSEN you, they must know that you can both GIVE and TAKE AWAY the feelings whenever you desire. This is the frame that you must control otherwise it will control you.

IN10SE / Twotimer

If you are one of those vehement supporters of this myth, you should get a noose and hang yourself – you’ll be better off. Trying to get a woman to like you by attempting to live up to her ideal preferences in a man is a one way ticket to transforming your ego into a proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall dark handsome rich men, packing dogs with garden hose length and telephone pole girth. Oh, furthermore, if you don’t want to fall short of their expectations you better be lumbered with chiselled abs and a copious bubble butt. If your rump isn’t up to par, you could always get silicon butt cheek implants. But forewarning: Your black-and-blue rear will be so sore that you won’t be able to sit down for a month.

As those of you know who have been reading my newsletters and have read my book: Attraction is not what a woman says she wants. If attraction was what women say they prefer, then I wouldn’t know short, bald, fat, and broke guys experiencing massive success with women. But I do.

Attraction, contrary to this, is about you creating the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies don’t fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they do manage to generate the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of them. And this, my friend, is why they are massively successful with women. The art of creating this emotion in women is what I call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of different techniques for PRIZING women, some of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops, Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.

One of the best things you can do to set the groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them strive to fill the quota of your ideal female. So, when you’re out with a woman, don’t behave like a spineless little worm, asking her questions such as: “How am I doing with you?” Instead, when she behaves in ways that go against your standards and expectations of women, let her know that she is losing points with you – and losing points quickly!

Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher Value Than You She Is Not Allowed To Be Attracted To You.

This one actually rings some truth. Let me explain. If you see a woman and immediately, in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you are figuratively butt ramming yourself, because you are setting the frame that she is the Prize, not you. As those of you who have read my book know, women do not feel attraction for men who are not the PRIZE. Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and abstain from bowing down to her.

What is the lesson to be learned? Objective value doesn’t exist, only perceived value does. Although women are usually not attracted to men of lesser value than themselves, you can do a lot to increase your value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a Meta-Frame – or underlying meaning – is established, determining your value in relation to hers. When you allow a woman’s perceived value to intimidate you, or make you feel of lesser value than her, you are unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to stop fretting about some aspect of her being of higher value than some aspect of you, plundering you of your self-esteem. When interacting with a woman, if you ever feel ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her sophistication or like a retarded little spaz to her sense of cool…or whatever, change your focus of attention. See the bigger picture. Realize that when first meeting a woman you paint a picture in your mind of who you think she is, based on a few aspects you observe about her. This picture usually ends up being way off base. Learn to take control of your perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her beauty, imagine what she looks like in the morning without her make-up; if her sophistication renders you tongue-tied, consider that she might be putting on an act to impress you; if you start worrying about how much older you are than her, imagine how much worse she’s going to look when she’s your age…and so on.

Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract Women You Have To Act Like You Enjoy And Are Interested In The Things That They Enjoy.

This pathetic little myth is really a product of the collective dating advice for men self-help books for sale at a bookstore near you, touting men to develop the personality of an obedient lapdog.

This myth couldn’t be further from the truth. Women are attracted to men, not little puppy dogs.

Hypothetically speaking, let’s say you are dating a girl who has a thing for musical kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind of music and would prefer the sound of nails on a chalkboard to this crap. What should you do: Pretend Britney’s great or tell her what you really think?

Although counter intuitive, pretending to like something you don’t genuinely like is unattractive to women.

Likewise, having a willingness to express what you hate can redound in women finding you very attractive.

Exceptions, of course, do exist. For example, specific activities have been deemed by our culture as having a high social value. You might, for example, prefer reading comic books over participating in these activities. There could be consequences, however, to not participating in them. In one of my upcoming products, I touch on these activities. I will probably publish a newsletter in the near future addressing these activities.

Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you jettison all of a woman’s interests and tastes that you do not share. Doing this will turn you into a creepy control freak and you will probably end up becoming a very unhappy, boring person. Only being around people with the same interests and tastes as you, will stifle your growth as a human being – diversity is good. I personally love to be around people that introduce me to things I don’t know a lot about. This is how I develop new interests and grow as a human being.

My gripe is with men faking an interest in something as a means to get someone to like them. Doing this is really handing your balls over on a platter to the other person. Don’t do this. Don’t give away your power. It is one of the most unattractive qualities you can possess.

Myth # 4: Women Don’t Like Sex And Will Only Sleep With You After You Go Through Great Lengths Courting Them.

This one really makes my skin crawl. My life experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the shadow of a doubt this myth doesn’t even contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex and can be as aggressive as men when it come to obtaining it.

If you doubt this, make some female friends who are not interested in you. That way they won’t be concerned with how you judge them, allowing them to shed their ladylike pretences and talk candidly about their sexuality. Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual psyche might frighten you – it isn’t for the faint of heart. What you will find is that women are as sexual as men…if not more. Also, I wouldn’t be surprised if these women told you about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands, and meaningless sex can be.

Many women hold off on sleeping with men because they lest being judged as sluts. It can be quite powerful to tease women about acting sexually forward or aggressive towards you. Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a woman’s sexually promiscuity can transform a sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.

Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly getting women into bed have a knack for making women feel comfortable expressing their sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is, of course, in the context of women you’ve just met. You probably wouldn’t want to encourage this kind of promiscuity in your wife or girlfriend).

Myth # 5: If You Aren’t Currently Good With Women You Probably Aren’t Going To Get Any Better.

Simply not true. I don’t believe this myth for a second. Over the years I have known many hopeless sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform themselves into some of the most skilled ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these guys ended up more skilled with women than natural ladies men. This is probably because they had a burning desire to get a foothold on this area of their life.

This self sabotaging myth is disseminated primarily by shrinks, guys who’ve had little success with women, and ladies men.

I know a few guys who were told by their psychiatrists that if they weren’t good with women, they probably weren’t going to get any better. And that they’d be better off compromising by settling for a less than desirable woman. One of these guys stopped seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic with women. He gets a gold star for firing the bastard.

Some guys down on their success with women will try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric, such as: “if you are not already successful with women, you are not going to get any better.” These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them like the plague.

Some ladies men will try to mystify their abilities by making you think that they are blessed with some unattainable God-given talent. Often times this is an attempt to exalt their abilities at the expense of your self-esteem. Don’t take that crap. You’re better than that.

All of the disseminators of this myth are thought viruses that will infect your mind, sabotaging your self-esteem and future opportunities with women. If you currently have any of these people in your life, KICK ‘EM TO THE CURB.

It is an understatement to say that I believe in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with women. I have met and taught men of all walks of life who have successfully turned their lives around with women. No matter what your current level of success with women is, I know you strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this. I know you are capable of achieving your goals with women and I am going to help you get there. And if you haven’t already picked up a copy of my book, do so. It’s not written for losers looking to cope with their unfortunate situation. It’s written for winners: People who are ready to take the bull by the horns and start achieving and living the success they dream about. At the end of the day, $39.95 is a small price to pay to be fully equipped with the tools you need to start experiencing massive success with women. So if you haven’t already picked up my book, do so now.

Swinggcat (Real World Seduction)